How to Be Loved: A Memoir of Lifesaving Friendship by Eva Hagberg (English) Pape

Description: How to Be Loved by Eva Hagberg A luminous memoir about how friendship saved one womans life, for anyone who has loved a friend who was sick, grieving, or lost--and for anyone who has struggled to seek or accept help FORMAT Paperback LANGUAGE English CONDITION Brand New Publisher Description A luminous memoir about how friendship saved one womans life, for anyone who has loved a friend who was sick, grieving, or lost--and for anyone who has struggled to seek or accept help Eva Hagberg spent her lonely youth looking everywhere for connection: drugs, alcohol, therapists, boyfriends, girlfriends. Sometimes she found it, but always temporarily. Then, at age thirty, an undiscovered mass in her brain ruptured. So did her life. A brain surgery marked only the beginning of a long journey, and when her illness hit a critical stage, it forced her to finally admit the long-suppressed truth: she was vulnerable, she needed help, and she longed to grow. She needed true friendship for the first time. How to Be Loved is the story of how an isolated persons life was ripped apart only to be gently stitched back together through friendship, and the recovery--of many stripes--that came along the way. It explores the isolation so many of us feel despite living in an age of constant connectivity; how our ambitions sometimes pull us apart more than bring us together; and how a simple doughnut, delivered by a caring soul, can become the essence of what makes a life valuable. With gorgeous prose shot through with empathy, pain, fear, and the secret truths inside all of us, Eva writes about the friends who taught her to grow up and open her heart--and how the relentlessness of suffering can give rise to the greatest joy. Author Biography EVA HAGBERGs writing has appeared in the New York Times, T: The New York Times Style Magazine, Tin House, Wallpaper*, Wired, Guernica, and Dwell, among other places. Review An Entertainment Weekly Most Anticipated Book A Rumpus Most Anticipated of 2019 Pick A Best Book of February at Apple Books "Stunning...How to Be Loved is a memoir for the digital age, written briskly, almost like Facebook posts, with a sort of cheery brutality . . . For Hagberg Fisher, there is value in reaching out to others, in showing ones soft belly. Its dark stuff, but it comes as a relief, too: Were in this together."--Rachel Khong, New York Times Book Review "A lovely memoir." ?--People "Fisher recounts the harrowing fallout of the rupture of an undiscovered mass in her brain at age 30, as well as the people -- a few friends in particular -- who helped bring her back to herself." ?--Entertainment Weekly "How to Be Loved focuses on the interstices of, and the fears of not following, the standard trajectory -- diagnosis, treatment, battle, recovery -- where love ultimately lights the way." --San Francisco Chronicle "This moving, beautifully written book reveals the lengths we go to put conditions on our love, the ways in which we resist the people who want to come close to us, and the truth that it is in our weakest moments that we are most likely to find the greatest sources of strength."--Nylon, "50 Best Books to Read in 2019" "How to be Loved is searing, compassionate, and unexpectedly funny in its exploration of how suffering can beat us down to the point that we are forced to accept grace, whether we like it or not." ?--The Rumpus "A primer on vulnerability, and the power of dropping your shield." ?--WBUR "With the skill of an improvisational jazz musician, Eva Hagberg Fisher composes a harrowing, heartfelt tale about sickness and health, richer and poorer, better or worse--pillars of vows that often go unspoken between people who love each other. . . How to be Loved: A Memoir of Lifesaving Friendship, demonstrates her ability to convey the allegro-paced mental spiral that a serious medical diagnosis (or two, or three, in Fishers case) would trigger, and the subsequent quiet reflection--bars of gentle adagio, if you will--best executed in profound, more succinct phrasing." ?--San Francisco Magazine "It is the revelation that love can be unconditional and profound that makes this memoir stand out from many similar ones. Fisher is not just another survivor of a grave illness; she has been transformed by letting another person love her without constraint. A well-written, emotionally uplifting tale of friendships, extreme illnesses, and understanding what love truly means."--Kirkus Reviews "[A] gentle exploration of love and friendship . . . dazzling." ?--Publishers Weekly, starred "Architectural-historian Hagberg Fishers new book is a memoir of recovery, first from substance abuse and then from a triad of debilitating illnesses, including a brain tumor. Though the books subtitle suggests that this is also a book about the love between friends, it is above all about self-love. The book is full of a coterie of mostly anonymous friends who again and again surprise Hagberg Fisher by their willingness to respond to her Facebook posts chronicling illness or to come o -- Review Quote "Stunning... How to Be Loved is a memoir for the digital age, written briskly, almost like Facebook posts, with a sort of cheery brutality . . . For Hagberg Fisher, there is value in reaching out to others, in showing ones soft belly. Its dark stuff, but it comes as a relief, too: Were in this together." --Rachel Khong, New York Times Book Review "Fisher recounts the harrowing fallout of the rupture of an undiscovered mass in her brain at age 30, as well as the people -- a few friends in particular -- who helped bring her back to herself." -- Entertainment Weekly "A lovely memoir." -- People "Eva Hagberg Fishers story is the most beautiful sort of instruction manual. Through each harrowing, awkward, compelling, and heart-aching turn of the authors journey we glimpse the way a transformation is forged. Illness, addiction, and uncertainty are torments, but for some of us, asking for help can be the hardest challenge of all. This memoir is for us. It reminded me that every kind of healing is helped by the brave act of letting ourselves be loved. I would read it every day, if I could." --Melissa Febos, author of Whip Smart and Abandon Me " How to Be Loved focuses on the interstices of, and the fears of not following, the standard trajectory -- diagnosis, treatment, battle, recovery -- where love ultimately lights the way." -- San Francisco Chronicle "Eva Hagberg Fishers captivating How to Be Loved is more than a coming-of-age memoir that moved me to tears--its also a fascinating medical mystery wrapped in a love story, but not the kind youre necessarily picturing. Hagberg Fisher shows us that the most deeply felt love isnt always romantic, that our chosen families can love us just as much (if not more) than our biological ones, and that sometimes, the hardest part of loving someone else is allowing them to love us back." --Doree Shafrir, author of Startup "This moving, beautifully written book reveals the lengths we go to put conditions on our love, the ways in which we resist the people who want to come close to us, and the truth that it is in our weakest moments that we are most likely to find the greatest sources of strength." -- Nylon , "50 Best Books to Read in 2019 " "Most of us are taught to keep our innermost thoughts to ourselves, to bide our time with the hope that they may sort themselves into something more conventional, more palatable. Eva Hagberg Fishers unforgettable memoir skillfully upends this concept: it shows us the great bravery and priceless value of reckoning openly with the emotions that feel too vulnerable to express, the relationships too happy-making to believe, the friendships too bolstering and vital to endanger with - the horror! - our well-earned gratitude. How to Be Loved is so much more than a stirring travelogue through the world of illness; it is a powerful look at how personal bonds make our lives healthier even when we may be too preoccupied - or too fearful - to appreciate them." --Rakesh Satyal, author of Blue Boy and No One Can Pronounce My Name " How to be Loved is searing, compassionate, and unexpectedly funny in its exploration of how suffering can beat us down to the point that we are forced to accept grace, whether we like it or not." -- The Rumpus "With the skill of an improvisational jazz musician, Eva Hagberg Fisher composes a harrowing, heartfelt tale about sickness and health, richer and poorer, better or worse--pillars of vows that often go unspoken between people who love each other. . . How to be Loved: A Memoir of Lifesaving Friendship , demonstrates her ability to convey the allegro-paced mental spiral that a serious medical diagnosis (or two, or three, in Fishers case) would trigger, and the subsequent quiet reflection--bars of gentle adagio, if you will--best executed in profound, more succinct phrasing." - San Francisco Magazine " How to Be Loved bravely illuminates the widely shared experiences of addiction, illness, sex, love, and friendship, with a level of depth and intimacy that brought me to the brink of existential fear while making me laugh out loud . . . I highly recommend this book to anyone whos ever been reassured that everything will be fine when they really want others to honor the terror that maybe it wont; and to anyone whos ever been brave enough to push through that terror--as a patient, caretaker, friend, or lover--to what lies on the other side." --Adam Nemett, author of We Can Save Us All "A primer on vulnerability, and the power of dropping your shield." -- WBUR "It is the revelation that love can be unconditional and profound that makes this memoir stand out from many similar ones. Fisher is not just another survivor of a grave illness; she has been transformed by letting another person love her without constraint. A well-written, emotionally uplifting tale of friendships, extreme illnesses, and understanding what love truly means." --Kirkus Reviews "Eva Hagberg Fisher is a gift to this world. Her astute understanding of the way we work as humans--and the way she can turn that understanding into compassion, love, and stories--is something to behold. I wish her to be my secret, but I know, as with all gifts, that they are best shared. To not have the world know her way with words, her use of language, and her beautiful and radical empathy would be a travesty. Her writing is necessary and heart-mending." -- Jennifer Pastiloff, author of the forthcoming On Being Human "[A] gentle exploration of love and friendship . . . dazzling." -- Publishers Weekly, starred "An inherently engaging, impressively compelling read from beginning to end, How to Be Loved is extraordinarily well written and ultimately inspiring." --The Midwest Book Review Details ISBN035810856X Pages 256 Language English Year 2020 ISBN-10 035810856X ISBN-13 9780358108566 Format Paperback Publication Date 2020-02-04 Short Title How to Be Loved Subtitle A Memoir of Lifesaving Friendship UK Release Date 2020-02-04 Country of Publication United States AU Release Date 2020-02-04 NZ Release Date 2020-02-04 US Release Date 2020-02-04 Author Eva Hagberg Imprint Ecco Press Publisher Ecco Press DEWEY 616.770092 Audience General Imprint US Ecco Publisher US HarperCollins We've got this At The Nile, if you're looking for it, we've got it. 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