Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them: When Loving Hurts And You Don't

Description: Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them by Susan Forward, Joan Torres Profiles of men who emotionally abuse women and the women who are attracted to them are accompanied by advice for women who want to improve or terminate misogynistic relationships while increasing their self-respect, courage, and confidence. Reprint. FORMAT Paperback LANGUAGE English CONDITION Brand New Publisher Description When Loving Hurts And You Dont Know WhyIs this the way love is supposed to feel?. Does the man you love assume the right to control how you live and behave?. Have you given up important activities or people to keep him happy?. Is he extremely jealous and possessive?. Does he switch from charm to anger without warning?. Does he belittle your opinions, your feelings, or your accomplishments?. Does he withdraw love, money, approval, or sex to punish you?. Does he blame you for everything that goes wrong in the relationship?. Do you find yourself "walking on eggs" and apologizing all the time?If the questions here reveal a familiar pattern, you may be in love with a misogynist - a man who loves you, yet causes you tremendous pain because he acts as if he hates you.In this superb self-help guide, Dr. Susan Forward draws on case histories and the voices of men and women trapped in these negative relationships to help you understand your mans destructive pattern and the part you play in it.She shows how to break the pattern, heal the hurt, regain your self-respect, and either rebuild your relationship or find the courage to love a truly loving man. Author Biography Susan Forward, Ph.D., is an internationally renowned therapist, lecturer, and author of the number one New York Times bestsellers Toxic Parents and Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them, as well as Betrayal of Innocence- Incest and Its Devastation, Money Demons, Emotional Blackmail, When Your Lover Is a Liar, and Toxic In-Laws.In addition to her private practice, for five years she hosted a daily ABC talk-radio program. She has also served widely as a group therapist, instructor, and consultant in many southern California medical and psychiatric facilities, and she formed the first private sexual abuse treatment center in California. She lives in Los Angeles and has two grown children.Dr. Forward maintains offices in Sherman Oaks, California. For further information, call (818) 986-1161.Joan Torres is an award-winning freelance writer with extensive movie and television credits. Review "Very important and much needed ... This how-to book could be a lifesaver."— Abigail Van Buren, "Dear Abby""A must read for any woman who has ever been in a destructive relationship."— Sonya Friedman, Ph.D., author of On a Clear Day You Can See Yourself "Required reading for women who are in relationships with angry, intimidating, and controlling men."— Howard Halpern, Ph.D., author of How to Break Your Addiction to a PersonBantam Books by Susan Forward:Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them:When Loving Hurts and You Dont Know WhyObsessive Love:When It Hurts Too Much to Let GoToxic Parents:Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life Promotional When Loving Hurts And You Dont Know Why Review Quote "Very important and much needed ... This how-to book could be a lifesaver." - Abigail Van Buren, "Dear Abby" "A must read for any woman who has ever been in a destructive relationship." - Sonya Friedman, Ph.D., author ofOn a Clear Day You Can See Yourself "Required reading for women who are in relationships with angry, intimidating, and controlling men." - Howard Halpern, Ph.D., author ofHow to Break Your Addiction to a Person Bantam Books by Susan Forward: Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them: When Loving Hurts and You Dont Know Why Obsessive Love: When It Hurts Too Much to Let Go Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life Promotional "Headline" When Loving Hurts And You Dont Know Why Excerpt from Book Chapter 1 The Most Romantic Man in the World Its the Rodgers and Hammerstein way to fall in love. You see him across a crowded room, your eyes meet, and that certain thrill surges through you. Your palms grow damp when he stands near you; your heart beats faster; everything in your body seems to be more alive. This is the dream of happiness, sexual fulfillment, and completion. This man will appreciate and be responsive to you. Just being near him is exciting and wonderful. When it happens its overpowering. Weve come to call it romantic love. Rosalind was 45 when she met Jim. She is a striking woman, tall, with auburn hair and a trim figure, which she works hard to keep in shape. She has a distinctive style of dressing that shows off her height and her artistic flair. She owns an antique shop and is a successful dealer, collector, and appraiser of advertising art, which is her specialty. Rosalind was married twice before and has a grown son. She was excited about meeting Jim because shed heard so much about him from her friends. They took her to hear him play with a local jazz group. Afterward, when the four of them went out for a drink, Rosalind felt very drawn to Jim, who was tall, dark, and extremely good-looking. Jim and I were very attracted to each other. We talked about kids and music. He told me hed been married before and that his two kids lived with him. I was impressed with that. He was interested in hearing about my antique shop because he was doing some furniture refinishing and was interested in the market in general. He asked me if he could see me again the next night. When the check came, I could see he didnt have much money, so I volunteered to make us dinner at my place for our next date. He took my hand and squeezed it and just caught my eyes with his for a moment. I could tell he was grateful that Id understood his position. The next day I thought about him constantly, and when he came over that night it was wonderful. After dinner I put on the music to A Star Is Born, being the romantic nut that I am, and so there we were, dancing to this music in my living room; hes holding me so close and the world is just spinning around me. Heres this man who really likes me, whos strong, whos willing to work on a relationship. All this stuff is flashing through my mind while Im floating away with him, feeling so terrific. It was the most romantic thing that ever happened to me. Jim was 36 when he met Rosalind. He was as carried away as she was by their romance; she was the woman hed been looking for all his life. As he later told me: She was beautiful and had a figure that wouldnt quit. She had her own business and was making a go of it by herself. Shed raised her son and seemed to have done a good job of that. Id never met anyone like her. She was outgoing and bubbly and enthusiastic about everything I was doing with my life, even about my kids. She was perfect. I started calling all my friends to tell them about her. I even called my mother. I tell you, I never felt like that before. I never thought about anyone so much or dreamed about them all the time like I dreamed about her. I mean, this was really different. After their third date, Rosalind started writing her name with his last name to see how it looked. She canceled social engagements for fear of missing his calls; and Jim didnt disappoint her. Instead of behaving like a "typical man," he became as involved with her as she was with him. He always phoned when he said he would -- no more waiting for weeks for a man to call -- and he never put his work ahead of his need to see her. Together, they were on an exciting emotional roller-coaster. My client Lauras whirlwind courtship started out literally "across a crowded room." At the time, she was a successful account executive for a major cosmetics firm, a very pretty woman with light brown hair, dark almond-shaped eyes, and a slender figure. She was 34 when she and Bob first met. She was out one evening with a woman friend at a restaurant: I had gone to make a phone call and when I returned to our table there was this very handsome man sitting there talking to my friend. He had noticed me and was waiting for my return. There was electricity between us from that first moment. I dont think I was ever so attracted to anyone before in my life. He had those flashing eyes that I just cant resist. I was so turned on by him that I couldnt wait to go to bed with him. We got together the next night for our first date. He took me to a lovely little restaurant on the ocean, and he took care of ordering. Hes one of those men who knows all about wines and foods and I just love that in a man. He seemed interested in everything about me -- what I did, how I felt about things, what I liked. I talked and talked and he just sat there, gazing at me with those electric eyes, absorbing everything I said. After dinner we went back to my place and listened to music together, and then I seduced him. He was too much of a gentleman. I loved that about him. Of course, it was terrific with him sexually, and that was it. I felt closer to him than I ever had to any man before in my life. Bob was 40, working as a sales representative for a clothing manufacturer. He told Laura he had been divorced the year before. Within the first month of their relationship, he and Laura moved in together and he began to talk about getting married. When he introduced her to his two young children, they all hit it off immediately. Bobs obvious devotion to his children made Laura feel even closer to him. Jackie and Marks romance started out as a blind date. It became a serious involvement that very first night. As Jackie described it to me: I opened my door and saw this incredibly handsome man standing there. He just smiled at me. The first words out of his mouth were, "Can I use your phone?" I blinked and said yes, and he walked over to the phone and called the guy who had introduced us and said, "John, you were right. Shes everything you said she was." That was only the beginning of the evening! Jackie was a petite, vicacious 30-year-old when she and Mark met. She was working as a teacher in an elementary school, supporting her two children from a previous marriage, while trying to get her doctorate. Mark was 38 and had recently run for public office. Jackie remembered seeing his picture on billboards around town. She was very impressed with him and extremely flattered by his attentions to her. We were having dinner with John, who had introduced us, and his wife. She turned to me and said, "I know you two have just met but Ive never seen two people look so right together." Then she took my hand and said, "You are going to marry this man." Mark nodded and said to me, "Pay attention to what shes saying. Shes a very smart girl." Then he whispered to me, "Youve got a problem and his name is Mark." I laughed and replied "Why, are you going to be around for a while?" "I certainly am," he said. Then, when he took me home that night, we were sitting in the car in front of my house and he kissed me and said, "I know this sounds crazy, but Im in love with you." Now thats romantic. The next morning, when he called me, I told him that I wouldnt hold him to anything hed said the night before. His response was, "Ill repeat every word of it right now." Jackie felt like she was on a magic carpet from that evening on. Marks falling in love with her so quickly completely swept her off her feet. We All Love Romance Romance makes you feel wonderful. Your emotions and your sexual feelings are at fever pitch, and in the beginning the intensity can be truly overwhelming. The relationship can affect you like a euphoric drug; being on "cloud nine" is the way many people describe it. The body, in fact, is producing a tremendous number of chemicals that contribute to the "wonderful glow" people talk about. The fantasy, of course, is that were going to feel like that forever. Weve been told all our lives that romantic love has magical powers to make us whole and happy as women. Literature, TV, and movies help to reinforce this belief. The paradox is that even the most destructive misogynistic relationship starts out filled with just this kind of excitement and expectation. Yet despite the good feelings experienced in the beginning, by the time Rosalind came in to see me she was a nervous wreck, and her previously thriving antiques business was on the verge of bankruptcy; Laura, the former account executive, became so demoralized that she was sure she was incapable of ever holding another job; and Jackie -- who had successfully juggled teaching, graduate school, and raising two young children -- found herself breaking down and sobbing over minor incidents. What had happened to the beautiful, exciting romance that had marked the beginnings of these relationships? Why were the women so hurt and disillusioned? Whirlwind Courtships I believe that when a romance moves as swiftly as these did, theres an underlying sense of danger in the air. The danger may actually add to the excitement and stimulation of the affair. When I ride my horse, a trot is very pleasant but not particularly interesting; the thrill lies in the gallop. Part of that thrill is the knowledge that something unexpected might happen -- I might get thrown; I might get hurt. Its the same sense of thrill and danger we all experienced as children when we rode the roller-coaster. Its fast, its exciting, and it feels risky. Once the element of sexual intimacy h Details ISBN0553381415 Author Joan Torres Short Title MEN WHO HATE WOMEN & THE WOMEN Language English ISBN-10 0553381415 ISBN-13 9780553381412 Media Book Format Paperback DEWEY 306.7 Pages 304 Country of Publication United States Residence Los Angeles, CA, US DOI 10.1604/9780553381412 UK Release Date 2002-01-02 AU Release Date 2002-01-02 NZ Release Date 2002-01-02 US Release Date 2002-01-02 Imprint Random House USA Inc Place of Publication New York Subtitle When Loving Hurts And You Dont Know Why Publisher Random House USA Inc Year 2002 Publication Date 2002-01-02 Audience General We've got this At The Nile, if you're looking for it, we've got it. 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